Special… is a word that every person in life wants to hear. Being special for someone or everyone is a dream of almost every person. And what nothing wrong with that. Because from birth we have been taught the same either by parents or locality where we live in. There are three chances: one you treat as a special person by your parents, second you don’t treat as special, and third nothing from above. But the idea of being special always excites us. we want to hear words like exceptional, extraordinary, important, memorable, momentous, one in a million, out of the ordinary, significant, uncommon, unique, and unusual. Getting appreciation from someone, or someone giving time to you, or somebody giving extra care for you feels like a special person. But is that true feeling of specialness or its just others’ perspective or is it good to accept such specialness? We need to think about it.
Sometimes, we feel low and at that time someone came and pampers us means a lot to you. But nobody is there every time to pamper you or care for you. Likewise being special should be a self thing and not an external thing. If I asked you, what were the moments in which you felt special, many of us answered that when people laugh at my joke, some appreciate, and applauded on efforts, or somebody may respond by getting more likes on social media that would be a fact nowadays. But did anyone think about real specialness? NO.
We always want acceptance and approval from others, and that’s not specialness. But others can never make you feel special for a long time. We are not to prove to ourselves to the world that we can do it. Always remember there is a replacement ready for you. At work also if you resign then people at the workplace will find more replacements for you, they never stop for you. So rather than being special in that way, we have to flip our thinking. Like whatever I will do, I do it for myself. If I am better at myself then it will impact the world. And don’t compare with people who hold positions, prizes, or power because they should be an example for us nothing else. They are also human like us. So after seeing them don’t feel low.
When others appreciate you, congratulate you, or welcome you for your efforts -remember it’s normal. If you take it as specialness then from next time you always want the same reaction. Being special is a badge of realizing what you earn, what you achieve. If we planned for something like I will do 10000 steps today and you did the same then it might be a special feeling but it’s coming inside from you and you became happier with that feeling. Your achievements and learning create immense self-belief. Being up your own eyes is always a great feeling. Specialness does not require anybody but the individual. If you close your eyes and ask -why I am unique and what makes me special and if you get your answer you will find your way to earn your specialness. Nobody will give it, you have to take it. Looks, followers on social media, love, and appreciative comments are temporary, but if you earn your achievements, they will stay along.
According to psychology: ”There’s nothing special about being special. and trying to prove that you’re special only feeds insecurity.” So working on ourselves makes us secure and more special.